I find it a bit depressing that when these questions come up so many people have a negative view of mixed faith marriages. Whatever happened to a belief in love and fate?
In the end, people are people. Good and bad.
Listen, everything comes down to personality and love. You can tell within 2 months of knowing someone if you can build something worthwhile, whether you choose to admit that to yourself or not. You can see the end at the beginning, if you open your eyes.
When considering a mixed-faith marriage, you must know that you can talk about anything and that ultimately you can therefore resolve everything. This is if you are both respectful and reasonable people. Sometimes it will be your partner who yields, and other times it will be you. This is how it should be. Rather than always focussing on the big picture, I think the details of everyday reveal how you work with someone. Get the big questions out of the way first and then settle down to the details.
The big questions everyone should first address are:
- do we both think it’s ok that we continue with our own religions;
- what type of marriage ceremony will we have; what faith will our children have;
- how will our families feel about our marriage;
- what do you expect of me and what do I expect of you:
- is how I am right now enough for you, or do you expect me to change?
